1. Please tell us your Hand Name (name that’s used ONLY in internet.) and hometown.
Lady Hedoniste. I was born in Pretoria, South Africa and live in Vancouver, Canada.
2. About how long is your history as a Lolita?
July 2009 – Present. Just over a year and a half.
3. What first motivated you to do Lolita fashion?
When got a prepaid credit card for my birthday in 2009, it dawned on me that I had enough money to afford an outfit. Before that, I had a bit of an interest in it. Having seen it on Mana and having done a little curiosity Googling and research on it I was of course smitten with the fashion.
4. After knowing Lolita fashion, have you had any time-gap or resistance till you actually started to be Lolita?
Definitely. I got interested in the fashion while I was unemployed, and knowing full well how much the clothes cost, I thought it was just a hopeless dream. Also, I was a little reluctant about the idea of wearing it in front of other people, especially my parents. But when I opened that birthday present with the prepaid card, everything changed. I had also gotten a job recently, which meant I could actually spend money.
5. Please define your Lolita style as much as possible. (eg. gothic Lolita, sweet Lolita, white Lolita…. Etc).
For the most part, I stick to outfits that are either Gothic Lolita, Classic Lolita, or Kuro Lolita. But I have also tried Sweet Lolita once for a Miyavi concert. Occasionally I do Casual or Punk, but not very often.
6. About how many Lolita friends do you have?
Hmmm…I have no close Lolita friends, but I do hang out with some of the Vancouver Lolita girls sometimes, and I get along quite well with a couple of them.
7. What is the best thing about doing Lolita?
Feeling like my dreams are capable of coming true. Whenever I wear Lolita, I feel elegant, beautiful, strong and best of all, complete. When I go on EGL and read posts, it feels like magic, and I feel like I have comrades all around the world.
8. Conversely, what's the worst thing?
The drama. My god, the drama. I have never seen so much drama in any subculture I’ve been a part of and I’m a geek for fucks sake! Lolita_secret is the worst. There is so much hate for people that have different body shapes, skin colours, financial standings, religions, and a million other things. It makes me really sad to see Lolitas acting so stupid.
9. Which Lolita Brands do you like?
Moi-Meme-Moitie, h.NAOTO, Innocent World, Dear Celine, Rose Melody, and R-Series.
10. What was the first Lolita item that you’ve owned?
A bodyline dress with a piano on it.
11. What is the “must have!” Lolita item?
I don’t think it can be just one! You have to have petticoats of course, the right dress/skirt, and a nice blouse. Good stockings/socks and cute shoes are a must too.
If this is referring to actual pieces though…I’d have to say that Vampire Requiem piece. It’s so perfect! ;.;
12. Do you wear drawers?
Not at the moment, no. I haven’t gotten round to getting a pair yet. I do wear shorts though.
13. Do you have any favourite Japanese music?
Gackt has always been a favourite of mine. I also adore Miyavi, Buck-Tick, Malice Mizer, and VAMPS. Ootsuki Kenji has some really nice tunes too.
14. Where do you particularly visit as Lolita?
Malls, meet-ups, and conventions.
15. About how many times per week do you dress as Lolita?
Usually once at most. I wear Lolita only a couple times a month, as my collection is still a little thin.
16. Please tell us about one embarrassing episode from the time when you were
just beginning Lolita.
The first time I wore Lolita outside I had a bodyline dress on with a petticoat on, and shoes that really didn’t suit the outfit. My petticoat was waaaaaay too short for the dress, so the silhouette was a bit off. I took one or two unflattering pictures. Not cool.
17. What's hairstyle and color that you think Lolita would suite the most?
Well, it depends on the style. I feel that Kuro and Shiro goes well with strait hair, and Classic or Sweet go well with curly hair, but many girls just wear wigs, so it doesn’t really matter.
18. Have you ever thought of stopping Lolita? The reason?
19. Please tell us your heart's bible as a Lolita. (anything like a book, magazine, CD, idol...)
Don’t know how to answer that one, sorry…
Many of my tastes change as time goes on. I’ve come to accept that all the things I enjoy say little things about my personality. It would be hard for me to choose something concrete.
20. Do you own a doll? Tell us your feelings about her intensely!
I have two porcelain dolls :3 One’s name is Francesca, the other is Sarah. Francesca was a doll my mom bought me in Venice. She is an elegant little lady in a green velvet skirt with a matching hat and a white blouse. Sarah is from England, and is a little girl with soft curly blonde hair and a pretty red velvet dress. They are both extremely beautiful.
21. What kind of make-up do you wear when you wear Lolita clothes?
Light make-up. I’m not one of those girls who go all out. I prefer a bit of foundation, neutral lip gloss, and light eye-shadow.
22. Have you ever secretly changed clothes in a train station bathroom on Lolita day-out?
No, but I have dressed in mall bathrooms before.
23. Are you composed when doing Lolita all by yourself?
Yep. I don’t have any problem with it. Sometimes I get nervous when people stare, but the clothes make me feel so good about myself that I hardly care.
24. How much do you spend in your Lolita clothes& accessary monthly?
Not much. I only buy every few months.
25. What is the most expensive Lolita thing you've bought so far? How much was it?
A bodyline two piece outfit. Terrible decision, but I have used bits of it for other combinations, so wasn’t unbearable in the end. It was a $50 purchase.
26. So far about how much has the expense been for Lolita goods?
I don’t even want to think about it. Almost $1000 so far. And I will probably spend a lot more in future.
27. Lolita outfit really costs money. How do you raise money to cover the cost of
Having a steady job helped. I’ll get one again soon and then I’ll be able to start buying more.
28. Have you ever bought from an online store? If so, please tell us its good
and bad points and some advice for the future. If not, please tell us why not.
Bodyline. Some of their stuff it very reasonable and wearable, but other items are just butt ugly and cheap-looking.
29. Even if you sort of want to keep it a secret, please clandestinely tell us
about a private manufacturer that is the best.
30. Is there a brand and/or an item that you think, "I could never get it! But I unreasonably want it!"?
Moitie. *sigh* I will never ever in my whole life fit into any of Mana’s clothes :C I can’t even afford it.
31. What do you think about people who only do Lolita at music-lives or cosplay?
That’s fine. Not everyone can afford to wear it very often, and for some it is considered almost fancy-dress.
32. From what age to what age is it acceptable to do Lolita? Do you think that there's a state in which someone must graduate from Lolita? (you can answer as ‘never graduate’)
Hmmm…well, I think 12 is okay to start, although you should avoid telling too many people that you wear ‘Lolita’ if you are that age. It is unfortunate, but that damn book is a curse on all our heads. I think it is debatable that there is an age to stop. Personally, I think you can technically wear it for a very long time, although it is better to change your style a little bit to match as you age. A 40-year old in OTT Sweet is a bit…
33. Is there a Lolita fashion or behavior that you think "I don't want Lolitas to do this!" about?
If you mean a behaviour that is common among some Lolita, I’d say being insensitive. If you mean an intrinsic part of Lolita…not really. If pressed, I’d have to say that some girls exaggerate cute mannerisms in a very fake unattractive way. But most are fine.
34. Is there something you think "Lolita has to be this way!" about?
Being courteous is definitely something I think all Lolitas should think about. We have to deal with a lot of people asking us every day why we wear the clothes we wear, and it can get annoying, but we must never forget that most of those people are probably not trying to insult us; they just want to know why we are wearing such unconventional clothing. If we are rude, they might think we are all rude weirdoes, rather than elegant pretty ladies.
35. While doing Lolita, has something changed from earlier than you did Lolita?
I get a lot more stares and people tend to strike up conversations with me more often. I also coordinate better and fancy up my hair more often.
36. Do you go to school/work as Lolita?
I wouldn’t wear it to work, but when I go to school again I will definitely wear it about.
37. Do you wear Lolita clothes as casual wear?
Yes. Sometimes if I want to wear something fancy, I will wear Lolita, but for the most part, it is part of my casual wardrobe.
38. Do you have a boyfriend (or husband)? Do you understand each other? (I think she meant “Does he understand you (as lolita)?”)
Not right now, but a guy I was seeing for a while thought it was pretty cool. He thought it was really attractive.
39. What do the people around you think of your doing Lolita? Do they accept it?
My parents think it is very odd. They don’t understand it at all. My friends think it is awesome :3
40. What kind of Lolita is who has impressed you the most up until now?
One of the local Lolitas is one of the most well-coordinated people I have ever seen. She’s so pretty! That girl has the most beautiful red hair and is always well composed. An ideal Lolita, based on her outfits whenever I see her. Gosh, I really hope she doesn’t think I’m a creeper; she’s just so cool!
Also from the Vancouver Lolita community, Momoco, Helena, and Sharon. Very nice girls, also very well put-together.
41. Have you ever made your own Lolita clothing or/and accessories? If so, what was the best item that you’ve made?
No, I can’t sew yet.
42. If you have an ideal Lolita outfit or coordination, please tell us.
Ahhh…I can’t choose >.>
43. Is there a motif that you think “this is a simple of Lolita”?
I guess you mean symbol or something? Lace and ruffles.
44. Would you want to dress your children as Lolita?
Mmmm…maybe. But I wouldn’t want them to call it Lolita until they are a little older. I wouldn’t want that kind of stigma for my family
45. What's your image of the ideal Lolita?
Perfect silhouette; thick, cozy petticoat; soft, curly hair with a cute fringe; vibrant colours; dainty shoes; knee-high socks. To top it off, a sincere smile and a warm personality.